Category: Big Thoughts
Friday, Mar 27, 2026 | Art, Big Thoughts, Lists, Source, Spirit, Word of the Year, Writing |
Prompt – Day 30 – A journaling manifesto, prompt by Suleika Jaouad
I reach for the page like I am addressing an oracle. The oracle is my own hand, tracing letter shapes in a way that demands slowness, patience, craft, that organizes electrical impulses into shapes that speak of beauty, longing, love, loss.
I reach for the page like a lifeline. Give me news from the wilds of self, news I’m missing, can’t see, for all the humming noise in between, and the layers of self-protection.
I reach for the page like a friend, an old dear familiar faithful friend, who reflects back to me facets of my own being that I am reluctant or sometimes unable to see or appreciate.
I reach for the page like I’m practicing a religious rite. I rarely think anymore with fear about its blankness, nor fear of putting down the “wrong” thing, committing an error. Practice has disciplined me to accept and admire whatever appears — because existence, life, is a miracle.
I reach for the page as a tonic, to soothe my rage, or reframe it, recast my judgement in these softening lines and curves, so that it lives somewhere apart from me, and I am not denying or accusing it, but merely giving it a place to reside where its harm — the harm that is my judgement — may rest and not be wielded. I lay down my pain here, on the page, so that I may live more fully as I hope to in the world, with humility, with kindness, and without the imposition of my needs unexpressed and otherwise unknown to me. The page accepts all of these, uncovers and grants ease, soaks the wounds — my wounds — in salt water that somehow, by some miracle, lessens the sting while healing.
xo, Carrie
Monday, Mar 23, 2026 | Big Thoughts, Confessions, Manifest, Morning, Organizing, Source, Spirit, Word of the Year, Writing |
Day 80 – Prompt – Lament and Confidence paired with Erase Poem
Excellent sermon at church yesterday, so absorbing that I didn’t even get my notebook out to entertain myself. We had a guest speaker, a woman who co-owns a local cafe (and is also a pastor), and I felt what it would feel like to see myself more often reflected at the pulpit. Also, she fully owned how much she loves preaching, speaking, having a microphone — so refreshing. And her sermon, on lament paired with statements of confidence in the Psalms, was thought-provoking yet spacious. I had time to reflect on my own choices, tendencies, hopes, struggles to communicate.
I thought about how often people are just waiting to be asked about themselves — how good it feels to get to tell your story. I have to believe it’s that power that fuels the X Page Workshop, and will translate in my absence (I’ve bowed out for this season, as I’ve taken on a heavy caregiving role in another part of my life).
It’s hard to confess to my own limitations; how easily I become overwhelmed; how much I don’t do right now, or seem incapable of doing; how very often I go to the gym to escape, by which I mean to glimpse my ability to endure, because my mind, my emotional capacity feels exhausted. It ain’t pretty. This is my lament.
What is my statement of confidence that sits alongside my lament? Truthfully, since “retiring’ in November, I’ve been hyper-disciplined and focused and I’ve finished this next draft of Begin and I think the novel is special, magical, and writing it has brought me so much delight. Talk about escape. Somehow, sharing the joy of reading and books with children these past few years restored my own faith in reading and books. I’d become cynical and bitter, I’d lost my sense of purpose. The library work gave me a path forward. In my statement of confidence, I declare: I’ve thrown myself headlong into writing because stories matter.
I declare gratitude for the gift of creative energy, the gift of another version of escape. And I pray for more belief, more trust that purpose and meaningful expression can be found through writing. I pray for courage. That my steps are guided by what matters. So that my inner life and hopes can meet my outer actions with love and confidence.
Erase Poem (my version = Circle Poem)
I felt it would feel reflected, owned, spacious
I had time, tendencies, struggles, your story
I have to believe in my absence, confess
I didn’t simply shut the door
This is my lament —
Roles anoint themselves
Bad feelings, self-destructive ways
Disappointment at not being wanted
Confidence sits with sharing delight
A prayer for more belief! For courage!
Hopes meet actions
Hope for life ongoing.
Stay.
xo, Carrie
Monday, Mar 9, 2026 | Big Thoughts, Books, Library, Lists, Reading, School, Space, Teaching, Work, Writing |
What’s a library for?
I wrote this reflection last fall, as I was preparing to “retire” from my school library job to return to writing fiction full-time. I worked in the same library for two years, at a relatively small elementary school (about 275 students), with a relatively small collection (about 8,000 resources, mostly books). The school was small enough that I learned every student’s name, and their borrowing habits, reading levels, likes and dislikes. My thoughts on how the space was used, and what a school library is for, changed and expanded during those years, as I had the privilege of observing and experiencing how students and teachers related to the space.
A library is many things.
It is a room full of books, tangible resources whose information can indeed feel out of date almost instantly in a digitally connected world; but whose resources nevertheless belong to a technology that has persisted across centuries. Of all the technology in this room, almost nothing is older and more lasting than the book.
On the fiction / picture book side of the library, there are classic texts that continue to speak across the years to readers young and old. And new and contemporary writers and illustrators have contributed to diversifying the cast of characters and variety of stories and perspectives that reflect the makeup of our school communities here in Kitchener-Waterloo. The expansion of graphic novel publishing makes rich, complex narratives accessible to older readers whose literacy levels have been impacted by the pandemic. So — the library is its books and stories.
The library is also a compact between the borrower and the institution, which represents the goodwill and goals of the wider, civic community. In my experience, this is its primary value, which underpins all the other benefits of regular library-use in schools. The library is a collective civic resource. Every student in the building may borrow books to bring home, share with family members, and then return so that someone else can read them next. This creates a circle of responsibility and care. Borrowing and caring for a book is a tangible means of expressing belonging to a larger community. Lending a book expresses the community’s trust in an individual’s capacity to learn how to take responsibility for communal goods. It’s an offering on both sides of participation — and it’s a rare example of reciprocity in practice, in our education system. The stakes are relatively low. A book is valuable, but can be replaced, though not easily (budget restraints are real). So, time is spent teaching book care, reminding students of their responsibility to look after the books in their care, and underscoring the importance of sharing resources with others — in a library, we actually get to see how that works, and practice our skills at caring for a communal good.
To be honest, reciprocity was not the element that immediately jumped out at me when I started working in the library. But I’ve come to think of it as being revolutionary and foundational. If the medium is the message, a library book says: this belongs to all of us. And what does that message mean to you as an individual? How do you relate to it?
But also — what does that message mean to the wider community? I think this is where politics have come in, and the wider community may have minority objections to the content being offered inside the books themselves; content isn’t neutral, even if the technology in some way is agnostic.
What I especially appreciated about my role as caretaker of the books was that there were many opportunities for repair, literally and figuratively. I promised the students that they could tell me anything — baby sibling ate a corner, Mom spilled coffee, I ripped a page, I think the book’s at grandma’s, etc. — and I thanked them for their honesty and explained that I would do my best to fix what was broken. I celebrated every “lost” book that was found. Learning how to care for something means making mistakes sometimes. Owning up to a mistake and learning how it can be addressed, even if not fully repaired, changes one’s mindset, at least a little bit. (Maybe this also sums up my parenting philosophy: to become/be trustworthy, you have to know/believe that you are trusted … even if you haven’t quite earned that trust yet.)
Other elements of library life that have stuck with me include
— the opportunity to share stories with students, including mirroring back experiences for students who may not see themselves and their experiences reflected in cultural material often
— the opportunity to invite deeper discussion of real-life issues, concerns and experiences (death, holidays that others celebrate, peace, war, indigenous stories and values)
— the opportunity to create a peaceful environment in which students can rest their minds and bodies
— an opportunity to connect the resources in the library to the larger world on a regular basis with displays and story-time book choices and selections for teachers
— an opportunity to provide a weekly mini-field trip within the school, a special time for students and teachers alike to get a break from the regular routine
— the opportunity to provide space for creative expression, crafts, book clubs, library helpers, etc (though that proved a challenge given the time constraints)
All for now.
xo, Carrie
PS Writing fiction full-time these past number of months has been AMAZING. And I miss the students and the library a great deal. Both/and … I am learning to accept that to do something I love requires surrendering to it fully, and that means not getting to do other things that I also love. Choice is important, necessary, sometimes painful, and I’m grateful to have the luxury to choose.
Wednesday, Jan 21, 2026 | Art, Big Thoughts, Drawing, Laundry, Meditation, Morning, Peace, Source, Spirit, Winter, Writing |
Another day, another prompt. Day 21 — “Is there a moment when your mind’s chatter quiets? What do you notice then?” This prompt is about quieting the thinking mind. I wrote while visiting my mom’s apartment this morning.
How do I turn off my thinking mind? Actually, I’m an expert — I’ve learned all kinds of strategies by necessity, because writing doesn’t thrive when thinking, if thinking is equated with panic or rumination. Thinking seems like the opposite of trusting, of going with the flow. Thinking spirals. To turn off the thinking mind, you need to get what’s inside, out — by drawing, sketching, making music. Even talking is not the same as thinking.
When I’m quiet and listening, there’s tone, there’s atmosphere, sensation, a lot of valuable communication expressed beyond words. Am I thinking, then? “Lost in thought” — that phrase expresses wandering in interiority. How different it is from being “absorbed” — when I am absorbed in a task, in an experience, the world is there/here and my attention and awareness is heightened.
As practices for quieting the thinking mind, I like meditation that focuses on sensation. And I like my friend Emily’s observational meditation, too, that breaks down what’s seen into descriptors that don’t name the thing itself. So that tree outside Mom’s window becomes a spiky set of fractals growing from an inner stem, tiny spikes on larger spikes, dark green prickles, cones in some of the crevices where the branches part like arms held up or legs spread, and the spears are topped with crusted white gatherings, hardened flecks come together to form lopsided bolls, dollops, all different shapes and sizes, clinging fast to any outspread surface, and in smaller tighter balls collecting on inner protected crevices.
Maybe? Was I thinking when I wrote that? Yes, of course, but I wasn’t spinning. I wasn’t entirely “I” either. I was observing closely, without weighing the value of what I was seeing, and that’s a state that feels unselfconscious, and self-sustaining, satisfying. I am sustained and occupied in this observational state, and being alive and in my body is so easy. The task is easy too. It is very relaxing. It happens quite often to me, that I enter into this state, or find myself in this state of relaxed attention, maybe because of all the practice. This is the state in which I write — anything. Including this.
xo, Carrie
Sunday, Nov 23, 2025 | Art, Big Thoughts, Confessions, Library, Manifest, Meditation, Work, Writing |
What if you cherished yourself, I asked my reflection in the bathroom mirror at school, one day last month. It knocked me out.
I’ve been doing art therapy this fall with a new therapist. During our first session, I drew myself as two distinct bodies, each on one side of a river that flows between them, separates them. The one self sits in peaceful meditation, untroubled, calm, gently smiling, eyes closed, inward-looking but attuned, while the other self gazes at her, lying on her stomach on the river bank, also looking somewhat relaxed, dangling one hand in the river, but she’s frowning, her mind full of muddled thoughts, trying to let them go by placing them onto leaves that are floating by.
What I could express to the therapist was that I longed to be the peaceful self on the other side of the river. She could think clearly. She was untroubled by change. She represented an ever-ness.
The therapist wondered: What if you were the woman on the other side of the river? What would that be like?
I laughed. I couldn’t imagine it. If it tiptoed toward imagining it, I sensed that the muddled self would spoil the peace of that other self simply by attempting to unite them together. It was almost like whatever was contained over there, in that self, would be spoilt by exposure to the rest of me.
It reminded me of a habit I’ve had since childhood. I withhold whatever is most desired from myself. It’s difficult to convince myself to use something that will get used up. A favourite tea, for example, will stay in the box and I’ll brew a different flavour instead. I save things, hoard them. Others eat or consume them instead. Or I tuck away something that I want to enjoy, and never get it out again. I enjoy it by hiding it away. For example, as a child I would hide my Easter candy in my drawer, not sharing it with my brothers, yet never ultimately eating it myself. I could never find an occasion worthy of eating that special candy. Because if I’d eat it, it would be gone. Better to keep it till melted together and spoiled than enjoy it? Strange, right? Interesting. Curious.
Immediately after that vision in the bathroom mirror at school, I went back to the library and scribbled down these words in my notebook:
What if you were the woman on the other side of the river? What would you be like?
How would you treat yourself? What if you treated yourself like a previous vessel? A sacred vessel? An honoured presence?
What if I honoured my presence fully? What if I trusted myself? What if I could just write like it was normal life and not an existential crisis?
Okay, friends. That’s a big what if, but I’m going there. All week I’ve written like it was normal life. It’s been so enjoyable.
xo, Carrie
Tuesday, Nov 18, 2025 | Adventure, Art, Big Thoughts, Fire, Lists, Meditation, Peace, Source, Space, Spirit, Work, Writing |
Today is the first day that I’m not going into an elementary school (a library or a school office) in about three years. It’s wild to be out here and not in there. I’ll miss the kids in the library. I’ll miss them coming in and basking in the light of my attention. To thrive out here, I need to be sure that my attention pours onto someone else, something else, every day.
Why give yourself away? Because it returns to you, tenfold. What you give returns. So know what you’re giving, give with honesty, give what is true to your experience, and what you’d hope to receive.
Dear school library, thank you for re-tuning my focus. Thank you for healing my heart and mind.
At the library: I’ve learned better boundaries, I’ve learned the value of structure in trust-building, I’ve learned the importance of recognizing what’s holding me back (so often a blockage in my own mind), I’ve learned how to seek what I want. How to ask—wait, is this what I want? Or—how can I improve on this process? what’s not serving us? how can I set us all up for success? I know that I am part of a community, I am part of the larger world.
There are things that I don’t want to return to from my life and routines before this job.
Looking back, I see my own self-pity. I recognize a tendency toward self-inflicted martyrdom. If I could change anything about my past self, I would excise the self-pity. Tell yourself the truth! That’s what I say to myself often, when I hear myself tipping toward self-pity. I could pretend that it’s other people stopping me from speaking my mind; I could pretend that I have to work a “real” job because of financial concerns rather than it being a choice I’m making; I could pretend that I don’t have the time to write; I could pretend that an artist can’t be a “good person” and that’s why I don’t want to be an artist.
But I am an artist. Many people are, possibly even most people. (And why this obsession with being “good”? Still trying to figure that out.)
An artist is someone who seeks beauty and wants in some way to interpret it and preserve it and share it.
I’ve learned that it works just as well, if not better, to share my art with kids, to pin it to a bulletin board, to ask questions, to witness others who have found a voice in small part due to my being there to listen.
I’ve learned that it’s okay to want to publish—it’s one way a writer finds connection with the larger world, but it’s a way, not the only way, and that’s often confusing and the experience of publishing can feel really disconnected from the effort and play and experimentation that went into a project. So I like to think of projects differently.
I learned that every day there is the possibility that I will be connecting with someone else, in some way that feels meaningful to both of us. I hope for that, out here too.
Unconditional positive regard. I hope to walk with this into the world, into relationships, to the best of my ability, and when I can’t or when I struggle: box breathing, 5 breaths; a walk in the wind; music and watercolours; notebook, 5 minutes, what’s on your mind?; go to the gym; find a repetitive menial task; or cook a homemade meal and hope for lots of takers around the table.
xo, Carrie
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