the thing about writing is, the thing about being back into writing is that is opens me up and i feel things again or i feel more vividly because i have to, or because i wouldn’t be writing if i weren’t feeling so much it’s hard to say which way round this works
when i write i feel, when i feel i write
so i cry more—i’m touched by more—more touches me
is that true?
i don’t know for sure
but it certainly doesn’t have the opposite effect, writing certainly doesn’t close me off and tamp down my emotions and make me robotic or on auto-pilot though i can get distracted thinking about plot points and characters and what they’d be likely to do, even while i’m trying to have a conversation with someone else, i’ll say excuse me and run off to my notebook to scribble down a restless idea that flutters in and feels like it might flutter out if i don’t pay it attention immediately
mostly it’s this nearness to the surface that i’m feeling, like i’m poking my head above the waterline or being called just through the shimmering surface of things, up from underneath, and here I am, doing this thing I’ve trained my whole life how to do
and it’s not hard
but it’s also hard in ways don’t sound like they should be hard
it flows along, it carries me
and i have to surrender to it for it to happen
and that’s hard, not always, yet it is
and i have to feel such a shimmer of feelings they smear like an oil-streaked puddle on a hot street—why is the puddle streaked in oil? because we are pulling this raw material up out of the earth and selling it and burning it for fuel, even though it will cause our planet to warm to intolerable heights and our children’s children will suffer
but there’s all this feeling
just lying around, waiting to be felt
—not just rage, not just self-righteousness, not just schadenfreude, not just the hunger for poisonous evil to be put on display for our entertainment (that we want this flavour of feeling so much, that we crave it, the evil, the poison in the system, that is not good news for our species)
but we want to feel!
and sometimes it’s easier to feel what’s being sent our way in a deluge to bathe in—we could hardly swallow it, it’s too filthy and vile, there’s too much of it—but we can swim in it, dive into it, covered all over with the warmth of our own bad feelings running back and forth between us and the sea of sludge
like bathing in a solution that matches our own salinity, inside and out
comforting—
this other feeling, this cornucopia of feeling, this enters differently
it hurts, for one thing, even while it heals
there’s more of it than a person can handle but only because it’s so complex, layered and folded over and over so we have to unfold it for ourselves and put it back together again to understand what’s it’s doing to us, saying to us, where it’s pointing us
it craves release but also it speaks the truth, that we are sensitive creatures, stuck in our ways
no, a person might say—it’s a choice, you’re choosing it
how to explain, it’s not, not unless all the stuff we do, dumb, lucky, thinking, unthinking is a choice
i could no more stop myself from both feeling and desiring to feel than i could prevent myself from entering and creating stories, lines of text, rhyme and rhythm and images that call forth feeling it’s all of a piece it’s all the same loop
what touches our grief
what offers relief
what spills from my eyes and splashes on my shirt
we are all just meeting, it’s early, a character says in a story i was reading in the new yorker while lingering in the bathroom moments ago, before returning to my office. yeah, the other character agrees, and she names couples who all had to start somewhere, pairs of people they know, and then he says her son’s name, and she agrees but not as wholeheartedly, as if maybe she knew her son all along even before she met him, though he’s talking about himself meeting her son, not her; and us, he says to her, yes and us, and she doesn’t answer him but she looks to the horizon where the sun isn’t quite rising—they’ve gone on a road trip, like they promised each other they would do, and it’s been awful and it’s been tender
and it’s ending but won’t end here
it never does
the story slips into my layers and fills in a crack, opens another wider
and we are just meeting for the first time, or we once were, no matter how close we become, so who knows, who knows what will happen as we voyage older and older
before we slip sideways and our bodies return to unaminated material
and we leave, if such a thing is to be believed, that there is a separate we
we leave, as breath, we leave and where do we go and what we have done while we were here, together
if not feel way way way too much, an overflowing volume of feelings that we want—that I want—to put down on the page and show to someone else
i can’t stop myself from wanting that, or from doing that, because it feels so good, it feels like a loop has been closed, or a circle made whole, or a sensation has resolved itself into pure beauty
i guess
something like that
but maybe a lot less dramatic
except when it’s not, except when it’s exactly that dramatic
xo, Carrie